Writing this post feels awkward to me. I never thought I’d find myself in this position. The primary reason for my awkwardness today is . . . well, the primary reason for this post. Back in the days of the early settlers, if a woman’s husband died, she had to either find another suitable husband, or she had to go back to the city and to her family. Even thinking about the possibility of having to move to town makes me feel sick, and I have no family left.
In some ways, I feel like I can relate to many of those unfortunate pioneer women. They were strong, independent and determined, but life alone in the wilderness wasn’t easy for anyone, much less a widow with children. That’s why I’m writing today. I want to find a suitable husband.
I haven’t posted since last year after my husband died. Chuck and I had a wonderful, solid marriage for nearly 20 years. I wasn’t at all ready for that to end, especially so suddenly. My sons and I had a rough winter, but thanks to the prayers and direct help of so many friends and even people we’ve never met, we’re moving forward with the life that Chuck and I began on our remote homestead in the Alaskan bush.
I love living in the bush, but I’m not determined to stay at my current location. I love Alaska and prefer to remain in this wonderful state, but I am willing to consider living elsewhere.
A little about me
If you’ve read much of this blog, you already know quite a bit about me. I’m 54 years old, 5’4”, average build, and in very good health. I cook and heat with wood. I have no indoor plumbing, which really isn’t bad. If I didn’t have to go outside from time to time in the middle of a cold winter night, I’d miss some incredible Northern Lights! Until a couple of weeks ago, I hauled our water from a spring. A great friend from the lower 48 came up for a visit to help, and now, among other things, I have a basic water system. It’s a simple life that requires a lot of hard work. I wouldn’t mind having things a little easier, but I’m content.
I’m exceptionally devoted, honest and direct.
I prefer staying within Alaska, but I would consider moving to Montana, North Idaho, or possibly other rural areas.
My political views are very conservative. Living in the Alaskan wilderness was a childhood dream long before I knew anything about politics. Over the years of living in the bush, I’ve developed a definite prepper/survivalist mindset, and I enjoy learning and practicing bushcrafting skills.
I enjoy camping, hunting, fishing, trapping, shooting sports and just about anything outdoors. I love listening to rain on a metal roof. I love flying, and recently started training to become a pilot. I had to put that on hold for a little while, but I hope to pick it back up soon.
In many ways, I’m old fashioned and traditional. I homeschool my son. I bake pies and homemade breads, and make homemade marshmallows for cookouts. I grow a garden and put food up for the winter. I don’t really enjoy gardening, but it’s necessary so I do it. I pick berries and make jellies, jams, syrup, fruit leather, and an occasional batch of homemade wine. My son and I tap birch trees in the springtime. I make soap, and knit mittens and socks.
Things about you that are a must:
- Believe in God.
- Be very healthy and active.
- Be courageous, loyal, hard working and respectful. In general, be a man with grit and strong character.
- Willing to be a father to my 9 year old son. He is a wonderful, fun, active, homeschooled little boy who misses his Daddy and needs a strong father.
- Have a good sense of humor.
- Want to live (or already live) in a rural area.
- Love the outdoors and be able to take care of yourself in the woods.
- Know how and be willing to hunt and fish.
- Be handy with tools.
- Be mechanical (know how to maintain and do basic repairs on equipment, such as a chainsaw, generator, snow machine . . .) I’m not, but I’m learning.
Things about you that do not matter:
- Your age (as long as you are very healthy)
- Your appearance (as long as you are very healthy)
- I do not care if you have been previously married or have children living with you, as long as they are respectful.
- You are a pilot. (This one is a very strong preference, but not crucial.) I live remote now, so it will be difficult (not impossible) for us to get to know each other unless you fly. I love flying.
- I prefer a man between the age of 48 and 60. A little younger could be all right, but older --- probably not.
- Height --- not a major thing, but I prefer a man at least 5’10”. If you are shorter, that’s fine.
- You raise (or would like to raise) livestock, such as goats, cows and/or chickens.
- You play an instrument, such as violin/fiddle, banjo, guitar, piano, etc. I haven’t played piano in many years, but I sure love listening to music.
- You enjoy gardening. I don’t, so if you do, that will motivate me :-)
If you are sincerely seeking a life-long commitment with a loving wife, and believe that you have the qualities I mentioned above, please send an email with a good description of yourself, your background, and what you want in a wife.